Making Time for Self-Care


“Are you weary, carrying a heavy burden? Then come to me. I will refresh your life, for I am your oasis. Simply join your life with mine. Learn my ways and you’ll discover that I’m gentle, humble, easy to please. You will find refreshment and rest in me.“For all that I require of you will be pleasant and easy to bear.””

Jesus (Matthew 11:28-30 TPT)

I don’t know about you, but I know what it means to be weary. I know what it means to carry heavy burdens. But I also know the oasis that Jesus and His love is to me. Maybe it’s tempting to believe that a Life Coach must have his/her life all together to do what they do. Maybe you think that about me. 

Life is a constant classroom, even for us coaches if we’re honest! So while I can’t speak for everyone else, I can tell you that these are more than words on a page for me. These words are healing and reassuring.

The responsibilities tug and pull at me every day, as they do you. I have moments, days of feeling overwhelmed and uncertain of the future. I have to draw and keep to boundaries that are necessary for my life – just as you probably do. It may surprise you but I believe that these Scriptures are telling us, not only about the rest we can find in Jesus; but they are also telling us about the importance of self-care and the vital practice of “being still.”

The way our world is today, the news cycle, the constant barrage of information and yes even how busy some of our churches may keep us – it’s easy to lose site of this truth. It’s easy to wear the “crazy-busy” label like a badge of honor. It’s quite literally the American way. We are under-rested, over committed, overworked and we wonder why we are sick and tired much of the time.

I have to remind myself as well: this is not what He wanted for us! When I fall into the trap of neglecting my own spiritual mental or emotional health, it’s no good for anyone!


Conversely, when I purpose to take the time to run to that Oasis for strength, comfort, wisdom, no matter what is going on, I know that Jesus is with me in it. I’m more likely to actually sense His presence with me too.

I mentioned in a previous blog post that Jesus Himself made it a priority to get away by himself and just be with the Father in prayer. He’d get up before the sun lit up the day and after a long day of walking and healing and teaching- He ran off by himself and sent his closest followers ahead. “I’ll catch up with you later.” He’d say, and off He went. We know He went to pray but – who’s to say he didn’t enjoy just walking in the forest, or on the hillside, maybe he lay down a while and fell asleep- dreaming about the day he’d soon be back Home. Maybe He did a lot more. We don’t know, but I believe this: if Jesus was intentional about breaking away, getting rest, being still, shouldn’t we be all the more? If anyone could have legitimately claimed to “never have enough time in a day” couldn’t He have? But read through the Gospels. There’s never a hint of Him rushing anywhere. There’s never a moment when He cuts someone off just to hurry to the next sermon.

Watch Him in the crowds, see the woman with the life long health issue that reached out to Him for healing. Watch as he stops in His tracks and asks “Who touched me?” His friends were baffled- “Seriously Jesus? You’re bumping elbows with hundreds and thousands of people. They’re probably all touching you!”

“No, He says, this one is special. This one really touched me. Something left me when she did.”
The woman found her healing. Her perseverance, her desperation, her child like faith paid off. Jesus healed her. She was bold and he wasn’t too busy to notice!

You know what? He’s not too busy for you either. I invite you to press in as well. Reach out to Him. Tell Him you’re weary and worn. Let Him love you and comfort you and then resolve to be intentional about having a set time that you break away and do this often.

Self care cannot be a wish or a dream. It has to be a goal that we meet, daily.
Like any goal, you need to make it specific to a time or it likely won’t happen.

As I wrap this up,, let me ask you:

What do you do for self care?

Do you have a time set aside to sit and be still, be loved, to pray and meditate?
If no, what time can you set aside for this?
If that time doesn’t work, what’s your contingency plan? You’ll need one!

If you’re not a morning person, choose a time in the afternoon or evening. Whatever it is, make it a real priority and stick to it. The paradox about self care and rest is that when we do make it a priority we end up being more productive when we are “on.”

So don’t be afraid of falling behind. Just schedule it in so you can be that much more productive and rested when you’re back to your tasks at hand.

If want someone to help hold you accountable, or strategize other ways you may balance out your life, give me a call or send me an email. I’m here for you!



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